Episode 36

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24th Feb 2021

How being a people pleaser can affect your private practice - and what to do about it

They say ‘we teach what we need to learn’ and I think it’s true. I used to have an online business all about self-help for people-pleasers, and yup, I’m a recovering people-pleaser. 

I’m a whole lot better than I used to be, but I suspect that a lot of counsellors are people pleasers or recovering people-pleasers too. 

And being a people pleaser can have a real impact on your private practice. It can impact how you run your business and even what income you make. It can also lead to resentment and burnout. 

So if you’re a counsellor, how can you handle people-pleasing?

In this episode, we look at:

  • 5 ways being a people pleaser can impact you in private practice
  • 5 solutions to help
  • How it’s not all about the clients’ needs - and that’s ok

I don’t think people pleasing just goes away, I think it’s always going to be there lurking. It’s for us to be aware of it and keep doing the work. And the more work we do, the better we feel. 

Saying no feels very uncomfortable sometimes, but the more you do it, the easier it gets. And it’s totally worth it. 

Counselling is a valuable service - you are providing a valuable service. It’s ok for people to pay for that service and it’s ok to value yourself and what you do. 

It’s not all about the client - and that doesn’t make you selfish. And it’s okay for you to build your business into something that suits you and improves the quality of your life. 

Links to follow

Episode 24: Managing your diary with time blocking

Episode 32: 5 Easy ways to give back to charity (without reducing your fees or working for free) with Sophia Giblin

Episode 28: How to get and stay motivated

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About the Podcast

The Grow Your Private Practice Show
Helping Counsellors and Therapists Get Found By More Clients More Easily
I’m Jane Travis and I’m an ex counsellor that now works with other therapists to grow their private practice, hence the name of the show.

I’m the author of the Grow Your Private Practice book and also run the Grow Your Private Practice membership, where counsellors can get together and learn all about marketing, with a special love of all things blogging.

Okay, that’s the official stuffy 'about me' bit out of the way, because honestly, it’s so much more than that.

The truth is, the thing that really drives me, is helping counsellors - counsellors like you - to get more freedom and choice into your life so can work when you want to, how you want to and with the issues that you’re passionate about.

And importantly, to get paid properly to do so.

Because you have the freedom and choice to run a thriving private practice whilst also creating a fulfilling life for both yourself and your family.

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Jane Travis

Hi, I’m Jane. I’m a former counsellor who now helps other counsellors and psychotherapists to grow their private practice, hence the name of the show.

I’m the author of the Grow Your Private Practice book, and I run the Grow Your Private Practice membership, where therapists come together to learn all about marketing in a way that feels doable, ethical, and actually kind of fun.

Okay, so that’s the official, slightly stuffy “about me” bit.

But the truth is - it’s about so much more than that.

What really drives me is helping people like you create more freedom and choice in your life. So you can work the hours you want, in the way that suits you, with the clients and issues you’re passionate about. And most importantly? Get paid properly to do it.

Because you CAN build a practice that supports you - not just emotionally, but financially too.

I hope you enjoy listening.